Family or Wife

When a man and wife become married, they become one flesh and build a strong bond between each other. Thier souls become intertwined and their spirits are connected. As a Christian I believe that after a woman leaves her home to live with their husband, that it changes their loyalty and that their family's loyalty becomes second place. So I think that you should give more loyalty to your signifigant other, but it does all depend on the situation. Don't get me wrong I am all for my family and my loyalty is pledged to them, but thats untill I begin the new part of my life with my wife. In my book of tips for living, the author explains how the wife is more precious than rubies and that men should cleave to their wifes. It also explains the significance of their great bond and how strong it is. I believe that the bond is really strong and I think that I would be loyal to my wife. The person I would take advice from is my family because they know me the best and my parents have a successful marriage so their advice would be greatly appreciated. My mom also has a lot of wisdom and my dad also has a lot of wisdom. So their advice would be the best. I would probably have more trust for my wife as I said when we would enter the covenant of marriage we would become "One Flesh," and so we would have a huge connection and bond and I would trust my wife's opinions even though my family grew up with me, my wife has entered a covenant and my wife would begin to spend the rest of my life with me, every waking moment.

I would choose family.

I think that my family deserves my loyalty more. Honestly it’s a hard decision because I love my girlfriend so much, but my family has been with me my entire life. I’ve had to trust many family my entire life and I have never really doubted them. Maybe I got a little frustrated with my family’s decisions, but in the end they always turned out being right. I would always take my parents advice because obviously they know more because they have been alive longer, but if it’s something to do with school or people our age I might tend to listen to my girlfriend more because… well let’s just say she understands these people a little more than I do. For instance, if I was out applying for jobs I would take my parents with me, because how do they bring money home? A JOB! So they must have already been through the experience of applying to someplace and getting employed. However, if I was having trouble with in chem. Class I would ask my girlfriend because she’s in that same class, and, unlike me, is passing easily.

This whole question is really hard though, because it really would depend on the situation. Taken out of context I would definitely side with my family. They’re my own flesh and blood, how could I abandon them? I can think of quite a few situations where I would be much more loyal to my girlfriend though, so it definitely depends on what’s happening.

Family

I would probably choose my family over anyone because, if you have a wife and or girlfriend than they can just simply walk away and never talk to you again. But with family they're kind of stuck with you. Yes, they can walk away but it's very unlikely and alot harder for them to do so.

Honestly if it was my sister i'd say screw her. I don't like her and she doesnt like me. But if it was any other family member I would trust their advice over anyones.

Family or Lover? Which will you chose????

I think that my family would deserve more loyalty. I choose my family only because there the only people that trust the most. I mean they try to help me. They sometimes try to bring me up when im down. They the only people that I trust.


The only family member that trust the most is my fater. I choose my father because he is the only peorson that understands me as a person. He knows why I'm sad and angry. One time when I was in fith grade i can home depressed. My younger siblings didn't anything. My mother completely ignored me. But my father was the only who sat down next to me and started to talk to me. I felt alot better after that.

to be or not to be a banana!

Hmmm, in the early eighteenth century, there was a great cow named sir Kyle. This great cow who produced only the finest milk had a wife named princess laya. Sir Kyle had been worried for many days on weather or not laya was sleeping with other cows. One day sir Kyle's mother, or the mad cow came over to Kyle one day and told him tht she had Seen Laya with six other cows in the barn next to the owners house. Sir Kyle did not believe his mother. Then on one night sir Kyle woke up from the dream he had of giving chocolate milk instaed of regular milk. He was verry sad. He went out of his barn because he did not see laya and found her with 6 other young strong cows. They divorced three months later when she was shipped off to wal-mart. So the morale of the story is, trust your family instead of your significant other unless it it something small for example: like getting a bag of chips or doing the dishes. thank you for reading this post, and have a good day

You Know

I personally trust my girlfriend more than my parents. She is always there for me when I need help no matter what the problem is. I can trust her with anything. I dont really talk to my parents about anythng because they never listen or understand anything. I don't really ask for advice from my parents either. I would rather ask my girlfriend for advice. It is a lot easier to talk to my girlfriend about things than my parents.

I would take my girlfriends advice over my parents advice because I feel like she knows me better than my parents do. I don't really talk to my parents about anything other than just normal everyday stuff. My girlfriend is easier to talk to because she always listens and understands what I'm saying.

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Romance or Family?

I think that a significant other should be trusted more than a sibling. If you love someone enough to tell each other everything than their shouldn't be anything to hide. My uncle told all of my dad’s friends all the bad things he had ever said about them when he was young. This shows that a sibling can be very distrusting. My dad can tell my mom anything and know that she won't tell anyone else. . If I had to trust my brother or girlfriend I would definitely trust my girlfriend.

You should also take the advice of a significant other because they are the ones whose opinions matter. If I wanted advice on whether to get a new job I wouldn’t ask a sibling. Your sibling could be jealous of you achieving more or doing better than him. A significant other would only want you to do better and go further in life.

Romance or Family? WHOKNOWS.

Hey, Special_k here.
If I ever had to choose who deserves my loyalty more, a family member or a significant other, I would have to choose my family. Although I do trust and care about my girlfriend, if there was ever an instance where I had to be loyal to someone to my grave; I would choose my mom or grandpa in a heartbeat. We argue sometimes but I know they would always have my back, and give me the best advice over anyone. There has been instances like this in the past. I have had to go to my mom with problems that I knew if I told anyone else it would become a news report. It's that family trust that is so much stronger than anything you can build with someone else.

Now if there was an instance involving like drama or a conflict, I would most certainly go to my girly first. Her advice could be more helpful then anything my mom or grandpa could say. Because they're my age they would know how to work with the stress and deal with the problem. Of course I tell things to my significant other that I keep from my mom, nothing major, just things I think she'd be better at helping me with. And if there is ever something no one else needs to know about, I would just tell my dog! Pets can be a good thing to vent to because they can't give you a opinion. So next time confide in your dog, cat, or blue lobster (:
<3 Special_ K

Choices

If I had to choose between a family member or my wife or girlfriend I would choose my wife. I would choose my wife because I would be living with her for the rest of my life. I have been very loyal to my family so far and I am not planning on getting married anytime soon, which means that I still have a few years to be loyal to my family. Also it depends on who my wife really is. If for some reason I get married to someone I hate, obviously I will not be loyal to her. Also I will not trust her at all. I don’t think that will happen because I have the choice of who to marry.

Once I get married it will all change. It's not like I am not going to disrespect my family, but I will be living with my wife and I will be living with her for the rest of my life. There is no way that I can really choose a side, but I will see my wife every day. I would trust my family more seeing that I have lived with them for my whole life until I would get married. It would take a while for me to fully trust my wife. I really wouldn't know who my wife really is until I had lived with her for a very long time. Once I get to know my wife the way I know my family I will be able to trust her. Until than I will never fully trust her.

I would be loyal to my sister because she is family, and family comes first. If I wasn't loyal to my sister my family would be very disapointed. Only in certain situaitons I would be loyal to someone else, like when they ask me to do something more important than what my sister would want. I would listen to anyones advice. Just because I listen to someone's advice doesn't mean I'll listen to it. Like if the advice is bad or just doesn't make sense, I'm obviously not going to listen to the advice. I don't have any significant others, so, yeah. I would also trust a family members because they're family and they should be able to be trusted. My reasoning is pretty simple; family comes first. Especially when it comes to trusting people, I would trust a family member more than anyone else, it's not them, it's me. I don't have the best relationship with my famaily, at all, but I would still listen to them because hopefully what they say is for my best interest. I think the best advice comes from a mentor, which isn't my parent or a friend. So in a nutshell, I would be loyal to anyone I have respect for.

Spouse or Family?

I would have to say that I would pick my family over my spouse. I would pick my family because I think I can trust my family more then a spouse. I'd trust my family more because I would live with them most of my life and see them everyday, I would know when they are lying or telling the truth, I would also know their ways and all their tricks. With a spouse you wouldn't really know if their lying or not they could say one thing but then some one could say another, you wouldn't really know who to believe or what to do.

I would als0 pick my family over my spouse because when something goes wrong my family is always there for me. My family is also very truthful and I know that for a fact because I know when there joking or lying and I know when they are telling the truth because they are completely serious. Sometimes you can tell when a spouse is lying when you ask them a question and get mad. Also, a spouse can say one thing but the second you're not around they can go behind your back and do something. I know a lot of people that have been cheated on and/or lied to by there spouse witch has led to break ups or divorces. I am also one of thoughs people that have been cheated on witch led me to be carful of who I trust. That has also made me trust my family more.

What You Make Of It

If I had to choose between my mom and a girlfriend as to who I would trust more, it would definitely be the significant other. That person would clearly understand me more and listen to me, unlike my mom. Who, to me, seems like almost impossible to open up to because of how cold she was brought up. She's a nice lady overall but isn't someone who can understand me. My significant other would clearly understand me and be someone I can open up to because, well, I'd be dating them. If I couldn't open up to my own girlfriend, then why date them? Now depending on the situation and how long I've known the girlfriend for I could trust them, probably can't trust them as well as I could my mom but it'd be nice if I could. Course I really don't have standards for girlfriends, it's either I like you or not, pretty straight forward.

Everybody has a different opinion on whether they would choose a significant other or a family member. The reason for this is because it all depends on the family member and the significant other. If a family member wasn't very trustworthy then obviously I'm going to trust my significant other over them. So depending on the family and how they act and how close to them you are effects your decision on who to trust more. You are going to pick the one that best fits your life and lifestyle. For me I would choose a family member. I have a brother and he is very trustworthy. Therefore, in the future if this problem arose in my life I would trust my brother more than my significant other. The reason for choosing my brother would be because I've known him longer than my spouse and have more trust in him. Many Americans marriages today don't last. If my spouse were to leave me then let him go, I can always find another person to replace them and chances are they will be better. However, I can't and won't find another person to replace a family member. I will have known my brother for as long as he has been born and nobody will ever come close to replacing him. There is no better brother out there in the world for me, my brother now is the best I'll get!

Romance or Family?

To me, it depends on how far you've gotten with your significant other. I would rather trust my family with something than some girl I just met a week ago. But, when a man is married, he is very much required to trust his wife over any one else, with anything. Otherwise, he can trust her to leave him and take half of his stuff. Besides, a wife is probably more trustworthy than my brother, unless it's something like sleeping and doing drugs. (There is alot of divorce in my family; my father divorced my brother's mother, my brother divorced some European woman, my mother divorced my other brother's father, and my step-mother divorced a guy in PA. So I've learned some things.)

However, this really only applies to men, because we're not really all that trustworthy. It's okay if a woman asks her sister to do an important job, because the husband probably won't care either way. We're just going to ask why the baby's turning blue. Here's an example, men watch kids in a different way than women. Women are great baby sitters because they do what they're supposed to, watch the kid. A man would just let the kid do what it wants, but instead listen. We don't have the energy to chase the kid around, but we can turn the TV down and keep a sub-conscious ear out for and abnormal yelling. Key words are "help" or "ow!", but thats about all we know. We teach through examples, rather than giving information and lectuing the kid, because we're impatient. If the kid wants to touch the stove, the mother would pull its hand away and give a definition of temperature, so now the kid knows he will be bored when he touches the stove. But, the father would tell the kid to go ahead and touch the stove, so the kid will know that his hand will burn if he touches the stove.

To decide if someone deserves more loyalty, I would say it depends on the person or situatuation. If your significant other or family member is an untrusting person who lies a alot, then they obviously shouldn't be trusted. In my opinion, your significant other should already have your trust, and they should already have your loyalty because thats part of being in a relationship. The two of you should already give advice to one another on anything at all. If there is no trust or loyalty in a relationship, then perhaps it's not a "real or healthy" relationship.

Every time I have to decide if my significant other or family member should be trusted more, I think about the saying, " Blood is thicker than water." This saying always helps me decide who I should trust more. In the past, I have learned that trusting your family member is usually the better thing to do. Guys come and go, but you'll always have that family member by your side. I have also learned that taking advice from a family member is also the better thing to do because they are looking out for you, and usually want the best for you.

Who To Choose...

If I were in this situation, family or relationship, I wouldn't be able to choose. It mostly depends on the situation. Its a hard decision wether to pick your family or your spouse. The history of your relationships with both sides would also effect my decision. If there was previous incidents that may involve trust or advice that went bad it could determine the choice. If placed in this situation I might pick something completely different than these two sides. By doing this your not siding with them or against them, and therefore aren't picking favorites.

Family should come first. Those are the people who have and will always be there.Yet sometimes they aren't the best people and don't care. I know people who care about me more than some of my family which makes it hard to decide. Although family is first, its not always the right choice. If placed in this situation I know I wouldn't be able to choose.

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If I had to choose between a significant other and a family member for who deserves more loyalty I would choose a family member. The main reason I would choose a family member is because ive known them longer then my signifigant other. I may be in a relationship with this person but they havent always been there for me my whole life. I feel as if in a drastic situation they would be more willing to tell the truth rather then lieing to me to save there ownselfs. I feel as if it's a good choice to choose a family member because there family but sometimes they will not always be trustworthy and loyal. A family member and a signifigant other love and care for you but theres always that one time where they will not be there for you. So in the end you think both would have your back. but thats not always the case. Now sometimes they both might have your back all the time and will always be loyal to you and be happy for your choices. In that case you can't choose one which is good.

Family Matters

If I had to choose who deserves my loyalty more, a family member or a significant other, I would have to take many important things into consideration. I would have to think about who would be there for me the most, who cares for me the most, and who loves me the most. I would never want to hurt a family member personally. If my family did not get much respect from my significant other or were being thrown aside because of my lover, I definately could not choose the person I have fallen for. If my significant other was getting picked on by my family for every little thing she did, I'd have to tell my family that they are in the wrong. Family is one of the most important necessities in life, but love is also what we are all looking for. The person who should be trusted is the person who has always been there for me or who would always be there for me. If my respected family member did not like my lover for a very important reason, such as she was someone who never respected me or would treat me like trash and I was manipulated into thinking otherwise, the person standing on the sidelines such as a family member would be able to wake me up to the truth. If my family member did not have a reason for why I should leave my lover, I would have to take my lover's side. If my significant other claimed that she was being mistreated by my family and she clearly was, I would definately take her side and try to come up with a resolution for peace between the two because I could never leave family, but they have to respect my decision as well.

Matt Phillips or Family.

If I had to choose, who deserves loyalty more? A significant other or a family member, I would choose a family member. If you ever heard the slogan "family first" you should know who to devote your loyalty to. Your family should come before anyone. You have been with them your entire life and you should trust them with anything. I can relate this with one of my family members, because I can tell them anything and know that my secrets and ideas I share with them are trusted and safe. You should never trust an outsider with 100 percent of your heart, no matter who it is.

If you had to choose whose advice to take, a family member or a significant other, you know what T-Rex123's opinion is. You should always take the opinion of your family member. They will usually always be honest with you and tell you if you look crappy and should pick out another outfit, or tell you to take a shower because you smell. Your mother or father should always tell you the best choices in life, thats why they are your parents. If you asked your boyfriend/girlfriend if you look good that day and you really didn't, and they responded with you look fine, you can't take their opinion because you know they are just probably saying that to make you happy, even though you know you're having an off day. They may be nice, but they sure in hell are not honest with you when it comes to advice. If you had to pick "Romance or Family" when it comes to loyalty, trust, and opinions, pick your family. If you love your family and they love you back, they know whats going on.

-Family first.


Sincerley,
with all my dino' heart <3
T-Rex123.

Romance or Family?

One of the main characters of A Streetcar Named Desire is faced with a really tough decision, whether she should be loyal to her sister or husband. I don't know the situation she is in but if I were her I would probably keep my loyalty to my sister. My sister and I are not the closest, but she is my family and deserves my loyalty. She has been there for me for my entire life and my husband would be in my life for what? A couple of years? I would take my sister's advice over my significant other's in most cases. She is older than I am and has already been through school, dating, break-ups, lies, and all that. She could give me a lot better advice on most things than a significant other. I can't really ask for advice about my significant other with my significant other. It just woulnd't work.

I believe that my sister should be trusted more than a significant other. She has never really given me any reason not to. And how much can you really trust a significant other anyway? Lots of people lie to their significants or cheat on them. You see it all the time. A significant other can be in your life for a long time or a short time but family is forever. When things get tough, a lot of times a significant other may just leave you because thats the east way out. Another thing is that things may not work out between the two of you. They may decide that they would rather be with somebody else and then who is there for you? Friends and family.

Loyal Like A Lion

A significant other deserves loyalty more than family members for the same reason friends do. Family may be important, but at the end of the day, they're still your family. If you are not loyal with a significant other than you will most definitely lose them. Family should be trusted more in this same mindset, as family will never truly turn their back on you.

However, this is not the way you should get advice. Just because they're family, doesn't mean their advice is better. Instead, you should take advice from everyone and see what they have to say and why. A perfect example of this way back when I was deciding whether or not to get back with my ex: I asked friends and family for their advice and the majority told me not to. I ignored their input and went for it, only to find out, a few short months later, that I should've taken their advice into further consideration. Had I better listened to what they had to say, I could've spared both myself and my ex from a very rough fallout. The bottom line is, take advice from anyone willing to give it, and make your choice based on both the input you've been provided, and your own personal thoughts.