As many others, I do assume a pose in my daily life. Often I will alter my pose to try to fit in, but sometimes changine your stance won't always be successful. Much of the time, if you are successful in connecting with another when changing your role, you can feel a sense of accomplishment, but other times you can put at risk a friendship with another or lose respect in yourself. Connecting with another can definately be enjoyable at times, but as many people taught you since early childhood, be yourself. If you change your stance too often, the opinions of others may notice that you are simply putting on different masks just to connect and their respect for you may wither.
For example, one day you may say that people who eat meat are disgusting to one person, then enthusiastically talk about a great steak dinner you had the other day with someone else. This may result in accusations from others that you are a hypocrite. In this situation you would find it difficult to escape the such an accusation. If you kept to what you really believed then you would not be given such a tag. Changing for what another wants you to be is completely ridiculous, but many people who want to fit in will make that adjustment.
I agree with everything you said. In my opinion, it's perfectly normal to try to fit in with people you are around. This doesn't mean that you have to change yourself, but try to relate to them. Just like you said, "changing yourself is rediculous". The key idea is just to be youself.
ReplyDeleteI think you have heart. Thats all that matters. Our blogging family is here for you till death do us all apart. Keep your chin up and keep your true identity.
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